Started by #235888 at 22,Feb,12 18:53
 | I am straight / bi. I would love to be fucked by one or two men and am thinking about making it real one day. Any advice you can give me for my first time? Of course I am afraid of diseases, anything on this (except obvious things)?
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You will also, more than likely, receive a comment which says something like: "Such activity should be avoided, as it spreads disease and causes damage to the sphincter muscles. (Commentary on how degrading anal sex is will be optional)"
There is a degree of truth to the non-degrading aspect of that comment, but ALL contact with another person can spread disease...precautions should ALWAYS be taken to keep yourself and your partner safe.
That being said, here is the best advice I can give to you:
Your first time will probably hurt. You will be nervous and tense, and the muscles in your anus will resist penetration. It is important to have a partner who will take his time, be gentle, and be willing to back off if you experience discomfort. Trust plays a major factor! Make sure that you are "clean" down there (for obvious sanitary reasons), use plenty of lubrication and try to be as relaxed as possible. Anal sex can feel VERY GOOD when done right, and can be VERY UNPLEASANT when done wrong! Relaxation, lubrication and a gentle partner will help you to avoid over-stretching or damaging the muscles. ALWAYS USE A CONDOM. Good luck!
As justlookin has so wisely said, the most important factors (after to obvious sanitary and disease prevention ones) are learning to relax the anal muscles and trust in your partner.
First about relaxation, this is not especially difficult but it does take some practice because the normal state of these muscles is to be at least slightly tensed to keep the anal opening closed. But once the anal muscles are relaxed, most anuses can open enough to very comfortably accomodate most reasonably sized penises. Please note the weasel words in that last sentence: "most" and "reasonably sized". I'm sure that there are some very tight anuses that cannot open enough to accomodate some very large penises, but these are very much the exception. Generally, if you're motivated, you can do it.
Now, about trust. An unwritten rule of anal sex is that the person being penetrated gets to control the entry. If you are with a co-operative man, he will readily understand this.
Finally about positions. The photo you have posted with your question shows you face down with your butt in the air. That position very well might play into your fantasy of being "taken" by a man, but I would not recommend it for your first time. It is difficult to control the entry in this position. And surely you want your first time to be pleasant. After you've learned how, you can work up to this. What position do I recommend? The other man lying on his back so that you can lower yourself onto him.
Best wishes and good luck.
Your reference to 'precautions' is a sham. You don't tell the whole truth. The facts about condoms are that, according to the manufacturers, the failure rate for condoms is between 5-14%. This refers to vaginal sex. With anal penetration which is much rougher tissue, the failure rate is higher, Add to this the possibility that the wrong lube may be used, further degrading the condom and suddenly you have a recipe for potential Russian Roulette. Also, condoms will do nothing to prevent HPV infection.
The further mention of 'clean' is also a whitewash; no amount of douching can eliminate microscopic pathogens and viruses.
The muscles in your anus resist penetration because they're telling you something your brain seems to want to contradict.
You mention 'a gentle partner', but give no advice on how that 'gentle partner' should be found. No advice on whether it should be a long-term friend or a ad answered in a sex rag. No warning that the latter is unwise. No advice on what to look for in a partner, just that he should be 'gentle'.
Justlookin, if all this is the best advice you can give, please...give none. Some young guy is going to go down the wrong path and regret later that he believed you when you minimized the real truths.