Started by #301038 at 28,Dec,12 09:32
 | Forum Folk, please help me out, I'm confused about bi/gay men being selective or limiting in the activities they are willing to perform with the same gender.
I'm married to a man, but I also love women. And I love them from head to toe, online or in a real life. Every single woman I've been with, shared the same obsession about females body. Nothing is off limits, as long as it feels good to the other person, even if its exhausting, difficult, requires extreme dexterity and timing or simply hurts my neck, I would still do it to bring pleasure to my partner. So for me to hear, that some men will only suck cock (only jerk off together, only receive oral, only top or only bottom) but will not kiss, touch, hug, etc, is really confusing. Honestly, I've met women that I didn't feel like getting between their legs and pleasuring them, so instead of limiting activities, I just rejected the offer, or didn't pursue them at all. For me, to make love with a female, I need to be attracted to her, to all of her, not just her mouth or her ass. If I don't want someone a 100% , I don't want to be with them at all. Whats the point? Just curious what's going on in men's head? How does this work? Would these men be just as selective when having sex with opposite gender or is it only with the same gender? Or female's head? If there is a female who is interesting in engaging only in limited amount of activities with another female? P.S: Please don't hate or be ugly to each other. |
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In the first case, it's just a physical act to make one or more of the sexual partners reach orgasm. It's not uncommon for my wife to give me a blow job or for me to bend her over and fuck her over the table or counter; that's having sex.
On the other hand, when we're in the mood to make love it's a mutually stimulating and gratifying sexual encounter where the sex is secondary to giving each other the knowledge that we're in love and that comes with tenderness and a commitment to please one another above and beyond the physicality of the sexual acts(s).
If a homosexual or bisexual male is just looking for sex with someone that will perform a sexual act, or let himself be sexually stimulated, that's simply having sex.
If on the other hand the individuals desire an emotional component along with the sexual stimulation, then the sex will include many acts that transcend a simple sexual encounter.
In the end, it's not any more unusual for a man to desire to perform a sexual act with someone as it is for a man and woman to meet where she gives him a blow job only and he fingers her to orgasm. That's just sex and it can be all that is required when the times right.
Hope this helps. Cheers...
Sometimes, when I don't want to fuck, either not in the mood, have periods, or have an OB/Gyn visit coming up, and my husband got a hard on, I have no problems giving him head, because I love him and want him to be happy.
And if I just want to get off, I'll play with myself.
For example, I'll sometimes ask here to give me blow job while we're driving on a long trip. That's not lovemaking, but it is having sex. On the other hand, she'll pull my hand to her pussy under the dinner table in a restaurant and I'll get her off through her panties. Again, I wouldn't consider that lovemaking, but sensual sexual activity.
Another example is for those who swing one way or another. There's plenty of sex for partners who swap but I have never thought of that as making love. Indeed, when my first wife and I were swinging we would get so turned on getting off with others that when we returned home we would typically jump in bed and fuck each other as hard as we could till we wore ourselves out. It sure wasn't making love but it was because we loved each other we could simply enjoy fucking without the emotionality commonly associated when making love.
Perhaps this will give you something to contemplate where the difference between making love and having sex is concerned. And, just as an experiment, you might want to play with your hubby and live out a fantasy or two that takes you both out of your comfort zone and leads to hot, wild, uninhibited sex where one or the other uses your mate without the goal of pleasuring the other. The love comes afterward when you recall the sex and feel the rush of being used by your lover.
Cheers...
However, kissing a women is much more pleasurable, IMHO. Soft, smooth lips... oh yes!
As far as pizza goes, I would consider all the orifices as a suitable topping. Bananas would be like fucking an animal...
The whole point of ruining someone's life is to help them raise their standards of lovemaking, make them work harder and look for that girl that will love him so much to make him forget about me... if it ain't love, he'll always remember me.