Started by #465498 at 25,Jul,14 21:16
 | So here's my problem, I mainly top but I would like to bottom but everytime I do I seem to have trouble relaxing or the guy has problems preparing my tight hole. I like being rimmed, fingering is ok but does feel weird to me and toys are ok too but when it comes to relax I don't know what to do, Any or advice tips? |
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One of the best motivators to get her to open her ass to you would be for you to open your ass to her. Get a dildo that is at least as large as your dick (preferably larger) and show her that you can take it in your ass. Don't put it in yourself (well, you may the first time so you can get used to it), but stick you ass up in the air and let her do the insertion. Show her you're man enough to take it.
As jacobe has suggested, a good position for starters is the have the fucker on his back and lower yourself on to him. Another good one is both of you on your sides with your bodies spooned together so you can back into his dick. I would not recommend that you allow him to mount you as it is very difficult to control the insertion that way. But once you're used to being fucked, just stick your ass up in the air and let the fucker go to town on you.
For her, it was more sensual, and not about the sex, and she admitted that she loved how I let her explore her 'boy penis fantasy' with me!
She was really aware of how I was feeling, and we talked, and it was AMAZING!!
I think that it is REALLY important that the 'receiver' can say 'stop' or slow down, or whatever!! My experiences were with a woman, that was focused on intimate, loving sensuality.
I think that with guys, you need a 'safe word' or something. . .
The truth is that many men find prostate stimulation thru anal penetration to be VERY pleasurable. Some men can even reach an orgasmic climax this way with little or no stimulation to the penis. As can you.
So how many men find penetration pleasurable? Roughly half of the male population. And this has nothing what-so-ever to do with sexual orientation. Take me, for example. I'm as gay as they come and for me the physical pleasure from anal penetration is so slight that it is almost non-existent. Any pleasure I get from being fucked is psychological and emotional. If a guy is really hot and/or he's someone I'm really fond of, then the knowledge that he is using my ass for his sexual gratification makes the act very fulfilling.
On the other hand, I've fucked quite a few presumably straight men in the ass and they gave every outward indication that they were really enjoying it. A few even climaxed while I was fucking them.
I ran across an interesting statistic somewhere (I don't remember where) that roughly ten per cent of self identified straight men like being fucked in the ass. This is shocking because it seems both low and high. I know that's a paradox. It seems low because the true number should be about half, the same as it is for gay men. It seems high because it's surprising that many straight men would actually take it in the ass and find out they like it. After all, taking it in the ass does have the stigma of being gay.
Finally, about you taking it from your girlfriend, I presume she mounted you with a strap-on. That's HETEROSEXUAL SEX. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. All sex acts between a man and a woman are heterosexual, no matter what the sex acts are. For you, it was sexual because it felt really good in a sexual way and it brought you to a climax. As you said, for her it was pleasing in a different kind of way, more sensual. Obviously her toy is not part of her body so she is not getting any feeling from it, but the act pleased her because it fulfilled a fantasy and it brought you to a climax. The most important thing about sex is pleasing one's partner.