Be honest with her about your situation and start slow. No need to have intercourse the first time in bed. You could masturbate together (yourselves and/or each other), edging yourself just short of orgasm. You could go to town on her pussy with your tongue. When you DO try fucking, slide into her slowly and then STOP. Then take it very slow, one stroke at a time. Make it clear to her that this activity is training for your dick, and you'll take care of her orgasm later (e.g. with tongue). The less stressed you are about performing like a porn-star stud, the better you'll perform as you.

YES, seek professional help. I worked with college men for years dealing with this issue and it is readily and effectively addressed with help (and preferably WITH the girl, as well). We used graded exercises based on increased intimacy over about a 6 to 8 week period, with contracted "no sex" along the way. All the best.

Good advice already given


1) Ejaculate well before you have sex,...or, if the problem is accute then make sure you get the girls agreement to ejaculate at the start and then concentrate on pleasing her with expert foreplay/oral. Then you will be ready for the 'main event'.


2) Practice with 'edging' when you self pleasure and read the books of Dr Barbara Keesling which teach her method of judging male arousal thru 10 stages so that you gain control

3) If you do have an 'accident' don't say anything to the girl or let it rattle your calm,...just stay inside her, give her lots of kisses and wait for your stiffness to come back, then continue to thrust.