For further insight you might want to pull up two of my Forum posts: "Same Sex Kissing" and "Things Every Man Should Do at Least Once". An easy way to do this is to click on "other posts" next to my name. This will bring up all of my Forum posts and my recent comments on others' posts.

Yes many, probably most, straight men would probably freak out at the idea of French kissing a guy. But there is movement in this direction. See my Forum post. Some, not many but some, straight men now greet each other with a kiss. And members of the Hell's Angels Motorcycle Club have been doing it for decades.

Moving on to your girlfriend, you cannot let her dictate how you run your life. If an occasional man-on-man contact is important to you, then you've got to be able to do it. With or without her permission. It would be nice if she could join you in this and you could have a nice MMF three way, but if she won't, you'll just have to go it alone. If she cannot accept this, then she's not the girl for you.

And pleas do not try to smother this desire. It will not go away and if not satisfied, it could drive you to doing risky things. Let it happen in a safe and controlled way.

Good luck.

Well, relax and don't hold back. It's highly unlikely that she will freak out and/or be put off by the knowledge that you sometimes have gay fantasies. Indeed, it will probably be a turn on. It has been my experience as a gay man that being gay is a Major Babe Magnet.

For what it's worth, I once had a straight friend with whom I had a dalliance from time to time. Our first encounter began with a kiss and boy, did he like to kiss. After that his standard greeting when we met was a kiss, no matter where we were or who was present. And not just a quick buss on the cheek or peck on the lips, but a full on wet French kiss. I think he enjoyed the shock value of doing this.

One time I ran into him when he was out on a date with a lady. After his usual French kiss greeting, he introduced her to me. She offered her hand and I shook it. I kissed him and shook hands with her. Go figure. The next time I saw him he told me that she was so turned on by seeing men kiss that when he got her home she fucked and sucked like a wild woman.

OK Ananas2xLekker and any other straight men who might be reading this, if you want better sex with your girlfriend, lay a big, wet French kiss on one of your buddies while she can see it. It WILL turn her on.

One on my chest and pretty much everywhere else (I wasn't very hairy), two on my underarms, three on my pubic patch.

My removal was done in a professional setting by an MD. Since then home laser devices have come on the market and the professional salons have disappeared. I have one and use it now and then for the small amount of regrowth.

Go ahead and shave it. I had a quick look at your photos and saw that you have shaved your pubic patch. Was that itchy or were there any other problems? If not, then you're good to go. And please post some photos of your hairless ass.

For what it's worth I did a whole body shave weekly for years. Then I went with the permanent solution and had everything removed with a laser.

Rats! The four wheelers and full uniform part really blows my mental image out of the water. (Pun definitely intended.) And I also had the mental image of officers in stiff competition (again pun intended) for the nude beach assignment where they'd patrol nude and on foot.

Moving on to the life guards, you say they tell people to put on masks, but I presume not clothes. And what do the life guards wear? Please say masks but no trunks. (But I bet you don't.)

First of all, don't feel silly for not having got the joke. This has happened to me hundreds of times.

Secondly, thank you for useful information. It's true that most of this I already knew (hey, I live in Oregon and I do read the newspaper), but you summed things up very succinctly. I've often said that one of the most rewarding parts of SYD is things we members learn from each other. Again, thank you.

OK, do police officers patrol your nude beaches in Florida? If so, do they do it in uniform or in plain (no) clothes? If the latter, this conjures all kinds of interesting mental images. Imagine a constable on patrol wearing only a gun belt for his side arm. And how do they pin on their badges? How do they carry their citation book? The mind reels.

I posted this mostly as a joke and while I got a couple of joke replies (hello cruz69696969 and good buddy tb1), I'm surprised by the serious replies. Thanks all.

Man, if you don't wear snug pants, preferably without underpants, so that that big beauty shows thru, you are depriving the world of pleasure. If you've got it, show it off.

Of course they do. Checking out other guys' crotches is a guy thing, not just a gay thing and all men do it. Straight men might be discreet about doing it, but they do.

There's an old rhetorical question about whether women dress to impress men or other women. That's easy as most men (except for gay men) don't notice what women are wearing. But other women do.

A related question is when men wear snug pants with an obvious bulge in the crotch are they doing it to impress women. Again, an easy answer. Most women don't notice, but other men do.

Hey, a mouth is a mouth and it's well known that men are better cocksuckers.

This is a very delicate situation. I'm a gay man who has had several straight friends over the years. With most, but not all of them, we eventually had sex. In no case did it spoil our friendship. Indeed, it brought us closer together. So if you add a physical aspect to your and your mate's relationship, odds are it will be the same with you. You'll be not just friends, but also suck buddies.

But how to achieve this? A flat out proposal might work, but odds are it won't. More likely it will scare him off and delay, maybe forever, your intimate encounter. Better would be to keep placing yourselves in situations where and when sex is possible and wait for it to happen. It's OK to drop hints, but any outright suggestion of sex will have to come from him. If it's meant to be, it will happen.

Good luck.

Hey, pal, I saw this photo, too, and right away I thought of you. Obviously you also saw it.

And isn't it lovely? A nice tight close up of a perfect glans with a strong stream of urine flowing. Good composition with the image nice centered and superb picture quality. Fine art quality work. This one's a keeper. I'm downloading it.

One final thought. This desire is not going to go away. So find a way to make it happen in a safe and controlled way. Otherwise it will build in you and it might cause you to do risky things.

Yes, you do and you just haven't found the right man and the right cock. But don't give up. Hang in there and the stars will line up for you.

Some thoughts on sucking cock follow.

First of all, you self identify as straight and you do NOT have to turn in your Straight Membership Card just because you want to suck cock. A lot of straight men do. I call these men straight cocksuckers and there are a lot of them. In my personal life I've known several and there are undoubtedly millions worldwide. When the day dawns that you fulfill your dream and you actually suck a man to climax and swallow his sperm, you may still call yourself straight if you wish.

You mentioned 69ing during one of your encounters and that is indeed a fun activity, but I like to do it during foreplay. For the main event (or events) of orgasmic climax I like to do just one thing at a time. When I'm the cocksucker I want to be able to devote my full attention to my mouth, to the dick in it and to the man who's dick it is. I want to tune in to his response to my oral service so that I can fine tune my actions on the go to give him maximum pleasure and a satisfying orgasm. When I'm being sucked I want to devote my entire attention to my dick and the service being lavished upon it.

When you take a man to climax should you swallow? YES, YES, YES! I have never, ever spit out a man's sperm. Not even on my first time. I view the sperm as a thank you gift he has given me for giving him good service. And what a fine gift it is. It's a living product of his body as there are live sperm cells in that fluid. It will go down into my gut, be digested and turn into muscle tissue in my body. Part of him will become part of me. That feels good.

I've kind of waxed poetic on the joys of sucking cock, but I think it's the ultimate in male bonding. When two buddies get together and suck each other off they become sperm brothers. You mentioned being more comfortable with someone you have a connection with. Well, look over your circle of friends and see if there is anyone who might be a possibility. Drop a few hints. Over the years I've had several straight friends. (I myself am as gay as they come.) With most, but not all, of them we eventually sucked each other's dicks. Did it spoil our friendship? Absolutely not. It brought us closer together. We were not only friends, but suck buddies.

Good luck.

Man, you sound like a natural for porn. Sign up now.

Anyone who has an intimate encounter in a public place has got to expect to be caught. Indeed, many want to be caught.

What should one do if one stumbles on a public intimacy? Just what you did. Go on with your business and act nonchalant.

Yes.

How common is it for kids to do some sexual experimenting? For boys, almost universal. It may be no more than "I'll show you mine if you show me yours", but it's part of growing up. If this wasn't a part of your childhood, then you led a sheltered life.

For me, it was seven years old or younger. I don't remember precisely. It started out with showing and fondling and then he suggested we suck. I hadn't done that before, but I was game. I went first and did little more than a quick in and out, but that satisfied him. On his turn he really went to town sucking my dick. To this day I remember thinking that there was something to this. And a cocksucker was born.

"I recommend [e]very guy try it out at least once." So true. Every man, no matter how straight he is, should suck another man to climax and swallow his sperm at least once in his life. If only to prove to himself that this is something he can do.

For a devoted and dedicated cocksucker like me (and I expect you) there is nothing more exciting, rewarding, fulfilling and satisfying as sucking a man to climax. There's a real feeling of accomplishment from doing that.

You might want to pull up my Forum post "Things Every Man Should Do at Least Once". (An easy way to do this is click on the "other posts" link next to my name.)

OK, I'll give you an offer. I just went to your page and had a look at your cock and it looks good. I'll give you a no-strings-attached blow job any time any place you wish. You need not do anything but lean back, relax and enjoy it. The only thing I ask is that you climax in my mouth. I want to eat your sperm.

Some further thoughts on sucking cock.

In most of society the word "cocksucker" is used as an insult term. But I wear that label proudly as a badge of honor. After all, what do we cocksuckers do? We give sexual pleasure and a satisfying orgasmic release to our fellow men. What is more noble and honorable than that?

Others say that a cocksucker is subservient to the man being sucked, but I disagree. One, the man is trusting the cocksucker with his favorite body part. Most cocksuckers have teeth which could inflict a nasty wound if the cocksucker were so inclined. And two, the cocksucker is very much in control. He determines how much stimulation the man's dick gets. Generally he determines when or even if the man climaxes. He could bring the man to the brink and then stop, leaving the man frustrated and begging for more.

A third point is that it takes a man with total confidence in his own masculinity to orally service another man. This is especially true for straight men as gay and bisexual men usually do not have a problem putting another man's satisfaction ahead of their own. Real men suck cocks.

Which brings me to another point. A man does not have to turn in his Straight Membership Card just because he likes to suck cock. Hell, I've been with a couple of dozen men who identified as straight but were really good at sucking. One married guy in particular was an extreme example. He kept his clothes on for our entire encounter and didn't even like my feeling his dick thru his pants. His dick was for his wife. When he was with a man, he wanted to suck cock. And did he ever. He took out his upper plate and gave me a mind blowing gum job. Real men suck cocks.

Made your day, didn't it.

An interesting train of thought. My guess is that the answer is yes. Guys who crave cock but have limited access to it, either because they are bi living as straight or deeply closeted gay, will sometimes jump thru flaming hoops to get it.

On a related subject, I seem to be the "go to" member here at SYD for guys who are living straight but crave a bit of cock on the down low. My advice to them is to make it happen in a safe and controlled way. If this desire is not satisfied it will only get stronger and it could drive the man to do risky things. A prime example is Senator Larry Craig who was arrested for soliciting a plain clothes policeman in an airport men's room.

Every straight man has his price.

This reminds me of an old joke. A man as hitting on a woman in a bar and asked her if she'd go to bed with him for a million dollars. She replied that yes, she probably would. He then asked her if she'd go to bed with him for two dollars. She became very indignant asking "What do you think I am?" He replied "We settled that, what we're discussing now is the price."

Yes, you are worrying too much. Sure, there is risk in this, but there is risk in life. Have your first meeting in a public place and keep your wits about you.

No, it ain't normal. When a man sends photos of his cock to someone he's trying to interest that person in his dick. He wants to fuck you or have you suck him off. It's as simple as that. That's not to say that he isn't straight, though it's possible he's not. More likely is that he is indeed straight but is open to do a bit of switch hitting. Most straight men are.

More important questions are: Do you like what you see? Do you want his cock? If so, go for it. Volunteer to be his fuck buddy and/or his cocksucker. The next question almost always is: Will it spoil our friendship? My own experience is that it will not. I've had several straight friends over the years and with most of them we eventually ended up having sex. In no case did it spoil our friendship. Indeed, it brought us closer together.
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After I wrote that I went to your page and saw that you identify as straight. Hey, that ain't no big thing. A lot of straight guys fool around with their buddies.

"...give head for a living..." Would that be a dream job or what? Just imagine that you report to work, punch the clock, put on your knee pads and then spend the work day giving men oral service.

Don't you love his convertible briefs, shown here with the top down? So handy for easy access.

ME, ME, ME!!! I, too, am an avid cocksucker and the orgasmic climax when the sperm surges into my mouth is the piece de resistance of the entire cocksucking experience. Like you I like to roll the sperm around in my mouth to savor the flavor like a connoisseur savoring the flavor of a fine wine. I, too, have noticed a difference in flavor from practically flavorless to slightly to moderately salty or slightly to moderately bitter or some combination. But it never tastes bad. And like you, I always swallow. ALWAYS! Of the thousands of loads I have taken in my mouth I swallowed every one.

There is an interesting back story about swallowing. I was twenty-three years old when I first took a man to climax. He was nineteen and even though he was four years younger, he was a LOT more experienced, having sucked guys off since he was sixteen. He knew it was my first time and when I took his load and swallowed it, he was blown away. "Damn!" he said, "I've been sucking guys off for three years and I still haven't swallowed and you do it on your first time."

Are there any oldtimers here on SYD who remember jumpramp? He had a huge wardrobe of underpants, from basic tighty whities to the tiniest of g-strings with everything in between. I called him the Underpants King. He was kind enough to model them for us. He also looked really good nude.

Only millions of other men, worldwide. I'm as gay as they come, but in my personal life I've known a dozen or more men who identified as straight who liked to suck cock. One of these men was an extreme example. He kept his clothes on and he didn't even like it when I felt his dick thru his pants. His dick was for his girlfriend. When he was with a man he wanted to suck. And yes, he swallowed.

Erections in fine art? Sure, why not.

There are many postings on this very site that I think qualify as fine art and I've said so.

I've been to nude beaches hundreds of times and have seen hundreds of erections there. I whole heartedly agree with you that there is nothing wrong with an erection at a nude beach with some caveats. It depends on the character of the beach.

There are family nude beaches that are similar to nudist colonies as mentioned by ontheloose. Even at a beach like this an erection is not a faux pas. If a man is reclining on his towel and he gets an erection many choose to cover it up or roll over, but this in not mandatory. So long as he does not call attention to it he has not committed a breach of etiquette. Getting up and walking around with an erection is in the grey area, but I've seen it done, even at a beach like this.

Then there are adult nude beaches that are pretty much anything goes. At a beach like this sex is de rigueur and the beach is pretty much an open air sex club. I've had sex on beaches like this dozens of times, sometimes when there were people on nearby beach towels only a foot away.

So you have my blessing to get an erection at any nude beach you wish and you need not cover it up. And if you want to stroke out a load or have partnered sex on the beach, find the right beach and do it.

I was 7.

That's really unfortunate. Sucking off a total stranger is something every cocksucker should experience at least once in his life. It's trashy and slutty and oh so much fun. I think because it's pure sex without any baggage. The man being sucked just wants to get his nut off and he doesn't care how or with whom. The cocksucker just wants to suck and be rewarded with a load of jizz and he doesn't care who's cock it is. If it' done thru a glory hole that adds another dimension a the two men cannot even see each other.

As you might guess, I've done glory hole sex, both as sucker and as suckee, numerous times. Best wishes that you, too, will soon have that pleasure.

Yes.

Right on! The orgasmic climax during which the warm, creamy man juice surges into my mouth is indeed the piece de resistance of the entire cocksucking experience. I view the sperm as a thank you gift that the man has given me for giving him good oral service. And what a fine gift it is. It's a living product of the man's body as there are live sperm cells swimming in the semen. That semen will go down into my gut, be digested and turn into muscle tissue in my body. Part of him will become part of me. That feels really good.

Real men suck cocks.

Who isn't?

So do I. Did you read his profile on his page? It sounds like he's a dedicated cocksucker who delights in giving other men pleasure. My kinda guy.

Stunning!

And I'll bet you did more than look.

Just about everyone. So get a standing up and throbbing hard-on in the locker room and walk around and show it off. See what attention it gets.

If only...

Hide them in your ass.

The right-off-the-top-of-my-head reply is that both of you should get medical attention right away. This presumes that both you and she want a child.

Which leads to my second thought that perhaps she does not want a child and is using birth control. Have you discussed a child and pregnancy with her?

A third thought is you you need not feel unmanly if you cannot sire children. Many men cannot. See a urologist to find out what's going on.
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'Just went to your page and had a look at your photos. Wow! You should definitely NOT feel unmanly.

In much of society the word "cocksucker" is an insult term. But I wear that label proudly as a badge of honor. After all, what do we cocksuckers do? We give sexual pleasure and orgasmic satisfaction to our fellow men. What is more noble than that? And there is a special bond between a man and his cocksucker and a cocksucker and his man. Or men. At that park I mentioned more than once I had men watching me as I gave oral service to one man while they waited their turn. And of course putting on a sex show at the baths was one of the real pleasures of going there.

Isn't it a delight to have another man's dick in your mouth?

You identify as straight, but you let a stranger you met in a bar cum in your ass? Hey, I ain't being judgmental as I've done the same thing hundreds of times. But not recently. And I've fucked a lot of straight guys in the ass.

Reminds me of a joke I heard about a lecture being given to freshman women at a women's college. The lecturer stressed the importance of remaining chaste. She said "Don't accept a lifetime of regret for an hour of pleasure." A voice from the back of the room asked "How do you make it last an hour?"

Is that a chicken joke?
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Is anyone else here old enough to remember Ruth Buzzi and Laugh In?