On stage at a bandstand in a park on a rainy summer night. I also had partnered sex there on a different night.

For those familiar with Cincinnati, it was Seasongood Pavilion in Eden Park. There were cars passing by on Art Museum Drive about 300 feet away.

I think you're right. Pubic hair grooming has gone totally mainstream and most men do at least a little trimming. Many go completely hairless. I should like to point out that it was mostly gay men who started this trend back in the eighties. Now it has crossed over and is pretty much de rigueur for men doing straight porn and it remains popular in gay porn.

This sounds like the story of my life and the stress of keeping things secret was enormous. 'Turns out everyone knew anyway. Now I'm totally out and married to another man. Our marriage is a matter of public record. And like you, I don't care what anyone thinks.

For what it's worth the feeling of relief and having greater happiness upon coming out and living honestly is universal.

Maybe you are and maybe you're not. There are a LOT of guys who identify as straight who like to suck cock, undoubtedly millions worldwide. In my personal life I've known several.

There are several criteria used to identify a man's sexual orientation but by far the most important is how he self identifies. If you identify as straight, odds are that's what you are. And you don't have to turn in your Straight Membership Card just because you like to suck cock. Of course some of these straight cocksuckers are deluding themselves and they are really bisexual or even gay.

So wear the label that feels most comfortable, straight or bisexual.

A circumcised guy in the UK. Unusual but not unheard of. Prince Charles is circumcised.

Same experience for me. My father was born in 1912 at home and was uncut. I was born in 1942 in a hospital and was cut.

So you did see that post. Good for you.

When I was military age the war in Viet Nam was raging and a lot of soldiers were coming home missing limbs or worse, in a coffin. And homosexuality was an automatic out from military service. A lot of my gay friends said that if they were called up for the draft they'd "check the box", meaning they'd say yes to the question about homosexuality.

But a lot had changed between then and when I made that post five years ago. I had hoped to hear tales of how the gay guy in a squadron was treasured because he was the one giving sexual satisfaction to the others. They'd have his back because if something happened to him their source of orgasmic release would go.

In the five years since things have progressed even further. Most people know someone who is gay and it ain't no big thing. We even had a viable gay candidate for president in the last election cycle. I'm wondering (and hoping) that the camaraderie between the gay man and the rest of the squadron I mentioned in the last paragraph has come to pass.

I agree. Sex is something that two (or more) people engage in for their mutual pleasure and satisfaction. I suppose that if consenting adults wish to engage in practices that involve force, humiliation and/or degradation it's their right to do so. But these things do not interest me in the least and I find them inherently pathological.

Nobody has to hold my head down to receive a load of man juice. I want it. I want it bad. Receiving the load is the piece de resistance of the entire cocksucking experience. And yes, I always swallow. ALWAYS. True blue cocksuckers know that spitting out a man's load is a faux pas. The ultimate in male bonding is for two guys to swap blow jobs and swallow each other's sperm. It makes them sperm brothers.

Who's freddy?

So true. The penis is the universally loved sex organ. I think this is because a penis cannot lie. It's impossible to fake an erection and impossible to fake an ejaculation. When we see a load of jizz squirting out of a hard cock we know it's the real thing. The straightest of men always want to see the money shot when watching porn.

An interesting post. You might wat to pull up my post "Gay Men in Military Service" and have a look. (An easy way to do this is to click on "other posts" next to my name.

And same here. I've had full on sex right on the beach when there were people on a neighboring beach towel only a foot away. It's fun to put on a show.

Sex in public is the best sex of all.

Exactly. With women you have to wine them and dine them and say all the right things and do a lot of coaxing just to get a sniff of their pussy. But men are easy. Just say the word "sex" to a man and he'll start opening his pants.

A quick reply and then more later.

The first time in Amsterdam was just overnight about six or eight years ago. We were going to a safari vacation and the tour operator offered a break in the travel with an overnight in Amsterdam. Which is a good thing because it's roughly 25 hours from the west coast of North America to most places in Africa. The second time was four years ago for three days before boarding a ship for a cruise vacation.

As for the safety of prostitution, yes there is risk, especially for those who work the streets. But the window girls in the red light district are working in a pretty safe environment. The rooms are closely monitored and if any client gets abusive there will be bouncers on him in a heartbeat. He'll probably face criminal charges. That's the beauty of legalized prostitution. Where it is illegal the sex worker finds it hard to make a complaint for fear of being prosecuted herself.

So many interesting threads to pursue here. Let's begin with the Netherlands and male prostitution.

I've never been to The Hague but I've been to Amsterdam twice. Of course I had to see the legendary red light district. What struck me most was how clean and wholesome it was. The streets were clean and litter free and it looked like any other business district. Except the business was sex. Looking around at the people on the street, of course there were single gentlemen who were there to look over the wares on display and to perhaps avail themselves of the professional services being offered. But there were also couples there on dates. Couples of all ages from teenagers to senior citizens and everything in between. There were also families with small children. It looked like Disneyland with whores. I could just visualize one of those little girls turning to her mother and saying "Oh mommy, I want to be a whore when I grow up."

Like you I have heard that in the red light district there are now "window boys" in addition to "window girls", but I didn't see any. But I cannot imagine that male prostitution does not exist in the Netherlands. Hell, it exists all over the world. There is nothing to stop a gay man from selling his body and I'm sure many find it exciting. (More about this in the next paragraph.) There are also a lot of ostensibly straight men who will engage in sex with other men for money. (Gay for pay.) Often they will only assume inserter roles, the most frequent being the hustler allowing the gay man to suck him off. But for the right amount of money, nothing is off the table. Or in the case of the guy I took home, no money at all, just a handmade handicraft item. Another thing I'll note about that encounter is the he never took off his pants and wasn't even crazy about me feeling his cock thru his pants. He was just giving me oral service. He approached it in a very businesslike way like a short order cook preparing the perfect eggs over easy. He was very good at oral service and I could tell he had done it before.

Now about gay men prostituting themselves, I once had an encounter with a gentleman whose mother was a whore. He grew up in a whorehouse and he thought paying or getting paid for sex was totally normal and natural. It wasn't like he just blurted this out in the first five minutes, but it came out in bits and pieces over the course of our afternoon together. I didn't pay him anything nor did he expect me to (our encounter was for fun, not profit), but he was quite candid in saying that being paid added a layer of excitement. "I'm going to have sex anyway, why not get paid for it?"

Hey, I'm gay, Gay, GAY and I like pussy.

"...made a profession of it..."

An interesting thread. I once picked up a guy on the cruise block downtown. Or more correctly he picked me up. I spotted him first time around and knew right away that he was a hustler. The second time around he got in my car without any encouragement from me. Right up front I made it clear that I wouldn't pay him and he said that was OK. I think he really wanted to get off the street. Perhaps the police had been on him.

Chatting with him back at my house I learned that he was 32 years old and had been hustling since he was 16, half of his life. He spotted some handicraft items that I made and went ape over them. So I gave him one and he said he was going to give it to his girlfriend.

Then he said "Now I'm going to thank you." With that he took out his upper plate and gave me a gum job the likes of which I never had before or since. I wonder if he told his girlfriend what he did to get her gift.

I kinda sorta have an underpants fetish myself. There is something sexy and appealing about seeing a guy wearing only something that is usually covered by his outer garments. That's why jumpramp's photos were such a delight. He had a nice trim physique and an attractive penis so of course his nude photos were a treat. But when he modeled his huge wardrobe of underpants he really got the juices flowing. He truly was the Underpants King. I miss him.

Oh but you did answer essentially with the same answer you just gave here. I'm sorry if I implied that you hadn't. It's just that when I saw these four photos of Cupar peeing thru his skin I thought of you and your intact dick.

It's a beauty, isn't it. A lovely helmet head. I know that you prefer intact dicks, but like me you can go either way.

Hey, pal, do you remember about eight or ten months ago that I asked you if you peed thru your foreskin of if you skinned it back? Obviously Cupar pees thru his skin.

I'd do more than comment. If the coast was clear, I'd drop to my knees and start to suck. Or even if the coast wasn't clear if the others present looked cool. I love putting on a cocksucker show.

I sure do. When I was in my early thirties and had been an out gay man for more than ten years I had an affair with a woman that lasted for nearly a year. She knew I was gay and was totally cool with that. She sucked my cock a lot and I fucked her a lot but I hadn't yet licked her pussy. She encouraged me to give it a try, but it took me a couple of weeks to work up to doing it. (Or should I say work DOWN to doing it?) Once I got started, I really went to town lapping away and getting that pussy juice all over my face. And as dgraff says, it tasted like chicken.

Is this really you? If so, then you really are a grower. You have such a fine portfolio of photos of your lovely penis. Indeed your penis is legendary here at SYD and I have downloaded several pictures for my Penis Portraits file. But in most of your photos you are at least partly erect. Of course I had to download this one to demonstrate the difference between hard and fully soft.

You have put a header indicating that it is temporary and I cannot find it on your page. But please consider putting it there. I'm sure I'm not your only admirer who likes seeing you soft.

Relax and calm down, man. I posted that as a joke, not as a comment on royalty either pro or con.

As an American I find it interesting that any mention of royalty to a Brit and to a lessor extent other European often sets of a tirade, either in favor or opposed. I don't much care one way or the other. As for American's fascination with royalty, I suspect it has a lot to do with the fact that this in not something we have.

Oh yes, the camaraderie of standing shoulder to shoulder with buddies all with their dicks out and pissing.

Did I enjoy the experience? You bet!

I've told this story before but it bears repeating for new members. We had gotten to the "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" stage when he suggested that we suck each other. This was something I had never done before, either as sucker or suckee, but I was game to try it. I went first and did little more than a quick in and out. But that seemed to satisfy him. When it was his turn he really went to town sucking my dick. To this day, seventy years later, I remember thinking to myself that there must be something to this cock sucking business. And a cocksucker was born.

Even Queen Elizabeth farts.

Hey pal, I presume that you have looked over his portfolio of photos. In addition to having a really fine circumcised penis, he has a stunning physique. Real eye candy.

Isn't this part of growing up? Don't all boys do this to a greater or lessor degree? It might be nothing more than "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" to full on sucking and fucking and everything in between. I sucked another boy's cock and let him suck mine when I was seven.

Be still my throbbing heart. I ain't laughing.

A couple of thoughts.

One often hears that a person's virginity was lost. The truth is that it is rarely lost, but rather it is given away.

Which leads me to another thought. When the time comes that you wish to give away your virginity, be sure that it is a very special person.

A virgin!!!? Oh, poor boy! Chaste makes waste.

You've never eaten pussy!!!? And you're bisexual!!!?

Man, I'm the biggest fag in the world and I've eaten pussy lots of times. More than once I've brought the lady to climax that way and felt that pussy juice gush all over my face.

OK, true confessions. Even though I'm gay as pink ink, when I was in my early thirties I had an affair with a woman that lasted the better part of a year. She and I had lots of MMF three ways. One guy was interesting in that he was really uptight about being in bed with another man. But he really wanted to fuck the lady and if he had to have me there to do it he'd accept that.

The lady sucked both of our cocks and I also sucked his cock and licked her pussy. This took him a bit by surprise and he sheepishly confessed that he had never eaten pussy. Of course I had to chide him on that saying that if this big fag can eat pussy, you can too. So get down there and start lapping. He did. And before the evening was over he had sucked my cock, too.

Yes, MoeJoe is a long time stalwart member with a huge portfolio of photos. And it doesn't hurt that he has a stunningly attractive penis with a spectacular glans.

Do you mean fuck on the beach? It depends on the beach. See my answer above.

So there you are. I kinda thought that you have never been to a nude beach and were lookin for guidance and I'm happy to help. I've been to a dozen or more nude beaches hundreds of times.

First, consider that there are various types of nude beaches.

There are family nude beaches with children present with their parents and sometimes even their grandparents. These are for wholesome social nudity and sexual activity would be a serious faux pas. About the only contact would be to put lotion on another person's back. Displays of affection would be limited to hand holding and a brief kiss. Getting an erection would not be a breach as long as one does not flaunt it. Just stay reclining on your beach towel until it goes down.

At the other extreme are nude beaches where sex is de rigueur. These can be pretty much open air free-for-all anything goes sex parties. These are mostly gay men who fuck and suck like sex pigs, but some straight people go there too. I've even seen women there with their legs spread wide ready for as many dicks as they can get. (If this is what you want, don't get your hopes up because they are pretty rare.) At a beach like this it's perfectly OK to walk about with an erection and show it off. It's also OK to look over the flesh on display. About the only thing that is off limits is to force yourself on someone.

Then there are beaches at various gradations in between. Get a feel for the environment and go with the flow.

"...I would probably have to go jump in the water..."

If that's because you got an erection then don't. Erections are normal and natural and nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. If a couple is having sex right in front of you of course you are going to become aroused. It's just good manners to show the couple putting on the show (and others nearby) that you find their performance exciting.

A related topic that has come up on the Forum before is what to do if one gets an erection at a nude beach. Erections are a sign of sexual arousal, but as every man knows spontaneous can and do occur. What to do if one happens at a nude beach? The answer is don't do anything. One should neither attempt to hide it nor flaunt it.

The easy questions first: You do not ask them to stop and you may move away if you wish.


"Is it impolite to watch?" That's a tough one. My own experience with having sex on a beach is that when people watched it enhanced my own pleasure. I suspect that is the attitude of most people who are bold enough to have sex in public. Also I have watched others having sex and I could tell they were enjoying being watched. They began playing to the audience.

So what is the best thing to do? The best course of action is to adopt a posture of detached nonchalance. Do not stare and do not show any disgust. Act as though people having sex right in front of you was the most normal thing in the world. Then look for clues as to whether they wish closer attention.

Good luck and let us know how it was.

Your point is well taken. You seem to have no interest in men, only sexual pleasure from anal penetration. And the intimacy you could get from being mounted by a man can indeed be supplied by your girlfriend mounting you with a strap-on.

Contrast that with the attitude of your fellow straight man cumonme1. He, too, enjoys anal penetration, but he is quite candid in acknowledging that he has some attraction to men. Indeed, he wants to make it happen.

I'm surprised that no one has mentioned porn actors (and actresses) whose job is to work nude.

Imagine that you report to work, punch the clock, get undressed, have your ass makeup applied and then spend your work day fucking and sucking. It's a tough job, but somebody's got to do it.

Do it, man, you'll be glad you did. As I said in my initial posting, the physical pleasure I get from being fucked is so slight it is almost nonexistent. Never-the-less, I have been fucked hundreds of times, most of which were quite pleasurable. If the guy is really hot and/or he's someone I'm really fond of, the knowledge that he is using my ass for his sexual gratification and orgasmic release makes the experience fulfilling.

In your case where you get real pleasure from being penetrated it can be even more satisfying. You must have a special friend who can become in addition your fuck buddy. He can mount you, insert his organ and pump to climax. If you enjoy having an inanimate object in your ass, think how much better it will be to have a living, breathing friend climaxing inside you. And you don't have to turn in your Straight Membership Card after you have done this. As I said, I've fucked several straight men.

Another straight man who's got the balls to admit he likes taking it in the ass. Sir, I salute you.

But now I gotta ask you. Have you had a real dick in your ass?

Shave it! You'll be glad you did. This is something every man should do at least once in his life.

Of course that's why we do it. Getting hard is fun.

We gay men pioneered manscaping back in the late seventies and early eighties and now, forty years later, it has become totally mainstream. Most men, both gay and straight, do at least a little trimming and many men, again both gay and straight, have opted for totally hairless from the neck down. There are even television ads for razors designed for below the neck use.

But the biggest problem with body shaving is that it is high maintenance. I know because I did a whole body shave weekly for years. Then I went with the permanent solution and had it all permanently removed with a laser. Since then home laser hair removal devices have come to market and the laser salons have pretty much disappeared.

And there seems to be no end in sight. It seems almost de rigueur for porn actors, both gay and straight, to do at least some trimming, and many go the totally hairless route. This has crossed over to everyday men. Looking a men in locker rooms, changing rooms and showers at gyms and swimming pools, one can see that most men do at least some below-the-neck grooming. Many go all the way.

Is it a generational thing? I'd say yes. Men of mature years don't seem to take it up very much. But for younger men it's standard practice. All men remember the rite of passage when their beard grown began coming in and they had their first shave. Nowadays that shaving ritual is moved back a few years. Boys who begin getting pubic growth are eager to shave it off.

Hairless is hot.

For further insight you might want to pull up two of my Forum posts: "Same Sex Kissing" and "Things Every Man Should Do at Least Once". An easy way to do this is to click on "other posts" next to my name. This will bring up all of my Forum posts and my recent comments on others' posts.

Yes many, probably most, straight men would probably freak out at the idea of French kissing a guy. But there is movement in this direction. See my Forum post. Some, not many but some, straight men now greet each other with a kiss. And members of the Hell's Angels Motorcycle Club have been doing it for decades.

Moving on to your girlfriend, you cannot let her dictate how you run your life. If an occasional man-on-man contact is important to you, then you've got to be able to do it. With or without her permission. It would be nice if she could join you in this and you could have a nice MMF three way, but if she won't, you'll just have to go it alone. If she cannot accept this, then she's not the girl for you.

And pleas do not try to smother this desire. It will not go away and if not satisfied, it could drive you to doing risky things. Let it happen in a safe and controlled way.

Good luck.

Well, relax and don't hold back. It's highly unlikely that she will freak out and/or be put off by the knowledge that you sometimes have gay fantasies. Indeed, it will probably be a turn on. It has been my experience as a gay man that being gay is a Major Babe Magnet.

For what it's worth, I once had a straight friend with whom I had a dalliance from time to time. Our first encounter began with a kiss and boy, did he like to kiss. After that his standard greeting when we met was a kiss, no matter where we were or who was present. And not just a quick buss on the cheek or peck on the lips, but a full on wet French kiss. I think he enjoyed the shock value of doing this.

One time I ran into him when he was out on a date with a lady. After his usual French kiss greeting, he introduced her to me. She offered her hand and I shook it. I kissed him and shook hands with her. Go figure. The next time I saw him he told me that she was so turned on by seeing men kiss that when he got her home she fucked and sucked like a wild woman.

OK Ananas2xLekker and any other straight men who might be reading this, if you want better sex with your girlfriend, lay a big, wet French kiss on one of your buddies while she can see it. It WILL turn her on.