100 limit of friends

Comments:

By #38932 at 05,Oct,11 23:57

I liked not having a friend limit. I got tons of friend requests and private messages, and I didn't have to worry about spending points to watch videos. Now that the limit is in place, I have to worry about who I add.

By admin at 12,Sep,11 01:54 other posts of admin

Say thanks to those who put 10'000 members in their friends and then make database server hanging up. And the server is no joke, it's raid-10 with 12MB of database cache memory.

I would not pay attention to this, but since normal server operation was affected I looked into it and found out that many members put thousands of other members in their friends. I don't know why they do this, but I can't imagine someone who can remember over 50 friends. And if you don't remember who the person is, how the hell can you put them into your friends? So I put a limit of 100 members which is more than enough for any reasonable application. And if you have some other non-reasonable purposes, you have to pay for it.

Premium members have limit of 500 and diamond - 5000.

By MoeJoe at 12,Sep,11 08:38 other posts of MoeJoe

I think most of us put them in our friends list so that we can view their videos without spending a lot of points.

By admin at 12,Sep,11 10:21 other posts of admin

But it does not work this way. You do not spend points only if the person who uploaded it put you into friends list, not if you put them into yours.

By MoeJoe at 12,Sep,11 10:27 other posts of MoeJoe

Yes I understand that, but when I ran across someone with videos that required a large amount of points to view, I would add them so that they could see my videos and in hopes that they would return the favor. I would prefer to just eliminate my friends list entirely and just view people's pics from time to time and not participate in trying to determine who my friends should be etc.....

By MoeJoe at 12,Sep,11 09:44 other posts of MoeJoe

Is there a way that we can delete our entire friends list with one click, if so I would prefer to do that and not even bother with a friends list. Also are our "Favorites" files going to be subject to a limit as well??

By admin at 12,Sep,11 12:51 other posts of admin

No. Favorites does not create complex sql queries.

By #17515 at 12,Sep,11 11:09

sorry to disturb you, is there no other way to increas the memory like setting a maximum of pics members can upload, i'm sure that all the members will appreciate this more then increasing the friends list. maybe a maximum of 100 pics by each member, will take the memory you need on server more down then friends list . thanks to you if you're willing to thinck about this

By #124665 at 12,Sep,11 12:45

100 pic maximum would be lame, I add a couple pics ever few weeks n it took me a long time to get to 100 pics and tho many ppl dont look past a members first page many other ppl will and if youre here for a long time n keep posting its not fair your old ones should get bumped off, comments n views along with it.. Id rather see pics and vids rather then a long list of "friends" that I've added just cuz they added me that I never chat with anyway

You wanna see a members vid for free ASK them to friend you or pay for the upgrade and theyre all free. If anyone wants to see my vids just ASK and I will friend you. I dont just add every random member that adds me with out ASKING or chatting some first (unless you have really awesome pics).

I'll talk to anyone even if they dont add me I dont care

But no one is gonna chat with all 1000 friends on thier list

Some are deleting me now n I understand.. I may be off the most befriended list soon n if so oh well, it was cool I made it there but it is what it is.. The list will be full of only chicks soon

I know where my friends here are, we'll chat from time to time

Have some DECENCY, this isnt a popularity contest! Or is it?

By YellyBelly at 14,Sep,11 02:31 other posts of YellyBelly

perhaps - maybe you can create for every member a "memory-list"(" notice-list), without all the links you have now,(exp. your friends newest pics,a.s.o.)

therefor: only to find a hot, sexy members page again, to see good pics again or to look if there are some new pics there.

- only to notice the name,(Maybe one photo to choose) for finding it again, shortly, and not seen for everyone, like the "favourites" now,
so everyone, who visited a hot members page and he wants to remember or to visit later again can put the name of this list to click it on again

By #11237 at 19,Sep,11 20:45

I have been on this site for a long time and have approx 500 friends! If I understand admin correct this causes a problem with the server when hitting "friends recent uploads"! Since this limit was introduced it seems that this funktion is only updated once a week! I click the button about once a day but it allways shows the same result! In addition it shows 13 pages going back to almost 1 month!

Why cant it just consentrate on pics uploaded during the past week only (irrespected if its "friend" of mine or not???

In general the site has improved a lot over the past few years with good features being introduced! Unfortunately it seems to be going backwards now! I am watching these developments closely and will decide soon if I delete all my "friends" from the list and start new, or if I delete my entire profile and go to another site!

Paying for this or facebook or any other social network site is not an option for me - out of principal!

By edwardren at 17,Sep,11 14:42 other posts of edwardren

I hope 200 limit!

By #85576 at 12,Sep,11 03:16

Couldnt we have a warning ..instead if just applying Ur new rule whenever u feel like it?

By #85576 at 12,Sep,11 03:16

Of not if *

By #85576 at 12,Sep,11 03:17

So the ones in grey r gonna receive a deleted message? Then we will have to explain 200 times why it happened ?

By admin at 12,Sep,11 12:54 other posts of admin

THIS IS a warning. It's not like I just dumped all your friends. Gray friends will stay if you do not delete them. But you cannot see if they are on-line nor can you see their recent uploads.

By langer011 at 13,Sep,11 10:37 other posts of langer011

Hui, I fully understand your pressure and szenarios. I would have wished however that this would have been exercised with a decent explanation and guide to help you rather than by surprise. Anyway, the world does not crash, a restart is a surprising new challenge finding a lot of other nice guys......and thanks anyway for proving that platform

By fancyabit at 14,Sep,11 02:06 other posts of fancyabit

I know why ppl keep adding more and more ppl on their page site, because its the ultimate compliment when you add them as friends, and also its only polite to add someone when they've added you.

By #22155 at 17,Sep,11 13:48

this isn't a very good warning, admin. i hadn't logged in for a while, and today when i do, i have tons of deleted friends, and im wondering "what happened?" you should have given us a date by which we needed to delete the number of friends over 100, or you would do it on that day. and that date should have been a couple of weeks out...

By #124665 at 16,Sep,11 01:15

Doesnt everyone get enough FREE shit on here already? Those of us that pay get little more but it's not necessarily the benefits, which are few that we pay for it's also to help keep this unique site running so we can continue to be here and enjoy the place, ALL of us, friends or not. All the bitching by those who want everything for free including a stupid list remind me of street beggars who aren't willing to contribute anything to society no matter how fucked it may be. Oi! Get a fucking job or get the fuck out! Or go watch free porn vids in your parents basement or whatever you do. Fucking slag offs!

Oh the violence!

By #49676 at 16,Sep,11 11:45

Well said Decent. I still have deletions pouring in daily, but I'm over it. The dust will settle. Why don't you all imagine that the current rules of the site were there when you first joined. Like "hi, welcome to showyourdick.org. There is a limit of 100 friends. Enjoy your stay"

It's really not so bad. An administrator can do whatever he pleases really. He already provides a great service, a little belt tightening is expected.

This reminds me of when people start complaining that their favorite band releases an album that they don't like. Oh the horror!

Anyway, I feel like a fully engaged member of the site - my wife and I have a great time - and it's totally free. I accept the ads and the bandwidth limits, and all other rules, because.... Wait for it.... It's free!

By #124665 at 16,Sep,11 12:06

Oh the horror!

By #164428 at 13,Sep,11 09:43

I wish people didn't have to be rude! Another deleted member banned me and put a rude comment for one of my pics. Sore losers!

By #59855 at 13,Sep,11 18:15

From Matt's Wife: That is why our pics are private and I will not change that.

By #164428 at 13,Sep,11 20:34

By #111678 at 13,Sep,11 22:10

Dear Mrs. Matt...I understand and COMPLETELY agree with your reasoning for the privatization of your photos; but you also know that many of your most loyal friends stood with you when such people were rude to you. Please understand that it seems a slap in the face that you don't support them. To some it may not matter, as they have friends to delete also...but some never will be that popular.

By #59855 at 13,Sep,11 22:26

From Matt's Wife: I know Artsy but triming down to one hundred is very difficult.....nay impossible.

By #111678 at 14,Sep,11 00:36

PS...still love ya!!!

By #124665 at 15,Sep,11 02:00

Slit just face it, WE SUCK!

By #111678 at 15,Sep,11 23:33

We just don't rate like we once did, I guess!!! Mrs. Matt will one day come to her senses and beg us to be her friends again...won't she? Please say she will...

[Luv ya always, Mrs!!!]

By #124665 at 16,Sep,11 01:03

If we can't rate in a list of 100 slit we are truly fucked!

By MoeJoe at 14,Sep,11 08:25 other posts of MoeJoe

ADMIN: If the real culprit behind the degradation of the system is "Your Friends Recent Uploads" with it's Query search of the whole database everytime someone hits Refresh, then why don't you just eliminate that feature instead of having all of this confusion going on here. I think you are going to have the same problem anyway...as the membership grows.....just a suggestion.

By admin at 14,Sep,11 17:47 other posts of admin

I was going to do this until I saw how many friends some members add. You see, 95% of members here have less than 100 friends. Yet some of those 5% add thousand of members as their friends. It's against the idea of a "friend". I will never believe that someone can remember 2000 contacts. Why call them friends then?

You see, I get constant complaints about so-called bullies. Sometimes it's about Monted, sometimes it's about Ererready sometimes it's about someone else. But it's always about one member. Something like "He spoils the site for everyone being rude in public chat / burning my points". And this site is organized so that one person cannot stand an organized group. Even a small group can ban anyone from public chat or burn points of 1 member. Yet here they are, "bullies", who can spoil the site for a person who have 1000 of friends in their list. What those 1000 friends are worth then???

My points is - friends lists with hundreds of members are not for friends at all. I don't know what they serve for, but definitely not for friends.

May be those friendslist are used to see full size pics or view vids free of charge or to in other ways increase viewing convenience, but those are premium features and should be paid for.

By #23212 at 14,Sep,11 19:59

'ADMIN': I've been a very happy member of this wonderful site for about 2 years. In addition to the than the actual friendships made through this site, I believe that, YES, some of us who had 'larger' friends lists, and expecting to be 'friended' back, were because of our wanting to view full size/resolution pics--since some of us are very visually oriented, have done good photography, etc.; and that's what has made your site so very much better than all the rest of the 'View My/Rate My ... ' etc. sites. Yes, it does seem that that should be a 'premium' feature, however many of us, on limited/fixed/senior/etc. incomes, cannot afford the USD$14.95 per month, just to view higher resolution pics. While I realize that you have a large amount of experience with sites like this, I am wondering/asking if you could consider starting a 'very limited paid membership', perhaps also 'prepaid' for one year, etc., for about USD$45 to $65 per year? This would be limited to ONLY being able to view pics in larger size/resolution, with NO other benefits such as more than 100 friends, no advertising, etc., etc. Yes, of course some who are paying the higher amounts will switch to the lower cost membership, but I am wondering if you actually will GAIN far more supporting income for this site, by the large increase in paying members that this limited membership would bring?? Thank you for your consideration.

By boy at 14,Sep,11 23:18 other posts of boy

Admin,I do understand your arguments but I don't like the way this new limit was introduced. As I allready stated above, your information policy was not very professional

By fila1305 at 15,Sep,11 08:17 other posts of fila1305

Admin, you say that the limit is put up here after abuse of the your frien's recent uploads button. I now the query is probably already very complicated and the search is very processor consumming.

Now I was thinking: isn't it possible to put a field in everybody's profile that keeps track what the last time was that that button was used and then check on 'real' recent uploads? By this a friend that hasn't logged in in the meantime, can be skipped all the way.

And perhaps you could just go for the pics that had been uploaded after the last check? The server still needs to check everyone's friends but after hitting an old pic it can move on to the next friend.

By #85103 at 13,Sep,11 21:57

Hi Admin
I had no idea about this new 100 friends thing. I don't have a problem with it actually, I just wish I knew why I logged on and found I had about 30 PMs of people deleting me from their friends list. I thought I'd done something to offend a lot of people and didn't get to see any notification of your decision.
Why don't you consider deleting the accounts of all the users who join, post NO pics yet think it's ok to visit our page and simply add us to their friends without asking, saying anything to us or even commenting at all? If you looked into this and deleted them I reckon it would free up a large amount of the headroom the site needs.

By boy at 14,Sep,11 23:08 other posts of boy

Same happened to me. I was also very surprised that suddenly so many people put me off their friends' list. Now I'm quite relieved, as I have finally found out that it was just because of the limit. Better information policy by admin would have been a good thing.

By fila1305 at 15,Sep,11 08:00 other posts of fila1305

I agree with NWCock. How about banning people who have NO pics at all uploaded (And then I mean none what so ever, so even no privat pics.) from forming a friendslist in the first place?

Thereby, I can understand your point of view, Admin, in reducing serverload. But as stated so often here, perhaps giving a little notice in advance would have been nice. Like you did with the multiple accounts recently.

If I offended any one by deleting them, I'm sorry, I never meant to do so.

By littleun at 14,Sep,11 01:58 other posts of littleun

to all the friends i just offended by deleting them. I'm sorry. I deleted everyone. the policy change is fine, its admins site, they can do what they like, however, i have never seen something handled so unprofessionally. What a dissapointment from a nice site.

By #7976 at 13,Sep,11 21:43

I understand your point. The server is massive and yet it's being overwhelmed at times.

As for me, I can live with a friends limit although, I'd prefer not to have one. I typically use the friends feature to track people I'm interested in as they put up new pix. When I go into my webpage and open the Social/Your Friends Recent Uploads it prompts me to check out what else they're up to.

Either way. Can we somehow select which Friends to keep or will they be cropped in some particular fashion such as date etc?

By littleun at 13,Sep,11 15:05 other posts of littleun

so admin. now you have a lot of hurt feelings from people that go online and see dozens of deletions with no reason and no explanation. Way to go. No communication. just policy. Are you perhaps retired from US government work?
Or perhaps just a bad case of inter-cranial rectal inversion?

By #161491 at 13,Sep,11 12:05

Would the administration be willing to change the limit to 500 instead of 100? That would be a whole lot easier to manage and I suspect wouldn't cause as many deletions for most members.

By admin at 13,Sep,11 12:16 other posts of admin

Before making this limitation I checked and found out that 95% of members of this site had less than 100 friends. So 100 should be fine for most of people.

By #78188 at 13,Sep,11 01:41

well if there got to be a limit on friends why cant you fix it where it will not be in alphabetical order but where you can put your friends in any order you like. like maybe a top friends list because i have made a lot of friends on here and now if your name does not start an a b or c you cant be on my friends list

By admin at 13,Sep,11 11:30 other posts of admin

If you delete one of the top friends it will simply shift up - i.e. one of the gray friends will become not gray. They are grayed only to show you literally that you are over the limit.

Means that you do not necessarily have to delete grayed ones.

By #175805 at 13,Sep,11 10:42

Started by someone at 11,Sep,11 19:42
why this limit?
is this site going to be paysite very soon?

Hello "Someone" May I be the one to tell you that it already is a pay site. The free part is just to get you into it and the features are all paid for. WHY? The owner doesn't want to work for a living so he/she is taking advantage of the people through sex. Basically he/she is pimping you out everytime you make a payment.

By admin at 13,Sep,11 10:59 other posts of admin

I have only one advice for you, if you think that running this site is not a job, just make your own site and enjoy all the "free" money you'll get somewhere on Bahamas. You can copy this one exactly, I won't sue you.

By #134917 at 13,Sep,11 05:27

I think its funny that admin said "thanks to those who put 10'000 members in their friends" because NO one had that many friends on this site at tops it was 5000 which is still half. I think the he needs to delete the top 100 befriended list there is no reason for it..

By #164428 at 13,Sep,11 07:05

Come to think of it, yeah! I came across the Top 100 list recently (I know we're both on it), and it seems the person with the most friends has just under 5000.

By #88520 at 13,Sep,11 07:30

That list only shows how many people that have added a certain member. A person that has added over 10'000 friends won't show up unless those users added him back.

Since I usually don't add guys, the number of users that have befriendied me are 10 times higher than the number I have in my own friends list. Still harder than I thought though to trim my friends list down to under 100 users

By admin at 13,Sep,11 10:50 other posts of admin

That's simply because I implicitly dumped friends of those who had over 5000. This member /member.php?w=38932 had over 42'000 friends. I remembered him because of that.

By #88520 at 13,Sep,11 10:32

That red deletion message looks so angry, I want something prettier in my in-box now. Any girls that want to send me something sexy?

By MoeJoe at 13,Sep,11 08:07 other posts of MoeJoe

Here's another consideration too...as you are culling your list to 100 you might want to change your profile settings to adjust who sees your pics. If you had a large friends list and restricted the viewing of your pics to friends only, then you might want to change that so those newly "deleted" people can still see your pics.

By camcock1 at 13,Sep,11 06:16 other posts of camcock1

Ah...so this is why I had alot of people delete me. Bummer.

By camcock1 at 13,Sep,11 06:29 other posts of camcock1

Also, I wish to apologize to those that deleted me, because then I deleted you. I did not know of this until I read the discusion forum. I guess I should expect more deletions soon. Later.

By #78188 at 13,Sep,11 01:54

By #164428 at 13,Sep,11 00:15

By wxmfun at 12,Sep,11 20:04

fuck u then bitch
Send Private Reply (start chat if the member is on-line) [blacklist this member] [report spam]

Uhhh....since you banned me now, I can't tell you that I didn't want to do it.

By #190431 at 13,Sep,11 00:42

while that sucks, if that's his response to it then it sounds like he wasn't really much of a true friend. Especially if he banned you now so you can't even write him back. Real friends don't say that kind of stuff to each other, period!

By #124665 at 13,Sep,11 01:20

True

By #161573 at 12,Sep,11 17:59

if the problem is the people with 10,000 friends, why not limit everyone to 500, and premium 1,000?

100 is kind of low if you've been here awhile.

you could even let people have 3,000 friends if the problem is really those few with 10,000.

By #59855 at 13,Sep,11 00:53

From Matt's Wife: No one had 10,000 friends. There were a couple that had about 4 or 5 thousand

By #164428 at 12,Sep,11 23:44

It's been sad today. Most of my PMs have been from people deleting me or people wondering why I deleted them. Ugh.

By #59855 at 13,Sep,11 00:51

From Matt's Wife: This is actually a sad day in the history of the site. I am really disappointed at all of the attacks going on.

By #76852 at 12,Sep,11 17:36

admin you are right! But I lost thousands of "friends" Some are really angry!!

By #33101 at 12,Sep,11 18:20

You deleted me. But I understand why you had to

By #59855 at 12,Sep,11 23:29

From Matt's Wife: This all seems counter productive. The problem is it is only going to benefit those that like to attack on this site.

By #59855 at 12,Sep,11 20:11

From Matt's Wife: It might be time to leave the site

By #17000 at 12,Sep,11 21:59

You might be correct. I think I'll stick around a while, see what comes of it.

By #112729 at 12,Sep,11 09:58

You're going to lose alot of members here ADMIN ... I remember when this site was the greatest thing ever , but now it's gone by the wayside ! Like everything else in this world "Greed for money ... got the best of you" !!!

Well this sucks !!! Only because your forcing All the members here to become paying members ! I have been here since July 2009 and have made alot friends along the way , and I actually do know most by first name and have become close to most of them ! This new system really sucks , because now my good friends are being deleted from my friends list and I am sad to hear this site is going to force all there members to become a pay site !

ARE THERE OTHER SITES LIKE THIS THAT AREN"T PAY SITES ????

I guess nothing lasts forever , and I always thought of everyone here like family , one big happy family that has to all be weeded out because of this site going to become a Pay Site

So to all the friends I have made along the way ... I want to Thank You personally for All the great conversations and friendships ! I'm probably going to get deleted myself for voicing my oppinion , so again Thanks for all the fun times here ... it's been great !

Love you all and I will surely miss you all as well , ....
Rob , the "CreativeOne" @}-;-'--- Now , "1XSpurt"

^..^_____!

I think everyone here is going to move on to other sites !

By admin at 12,Sep,11 12:34 other posts of admin

I cannot purchase more powerful db server. The one I use is already quite powerful as is. As simple as that. If I'm loosing members so be it. But from what I can see only 3% of members have more than 100 friends and most of them never paid anything for the site.

By #17515 at 12,Sep,11 17:03

the only way why i can't pay is that i don't have any creditcards. we pay much things with phonebill

By admin at 12,Sep,11 19:26 other posts of admin

Well, the only way to use phone to pay for sites are SMS billings. But their plans are ridiculous. They usually do not allow to set up prices. They offer fixed plans like $2 or $5 and only pay 40-50% of the charge leaving the rest to them and phone companies.

By #124665 at 12,Sep,11 13:03

You can still talk to ppl even if they are not on a list fucker

and you better not be going anywhere

But I get it.. Still I dont think it will become a paid site and there does need to be more benifits for paid members imo. so if you like the site and your friends here so much (like I do) fuck it, pay a few bucks a month

By Edmonton at 12,Sep,11 18:13 other posts of Edmonton

wish i would just say what your total number is rather than having to count it yourself.

By Edmonton at 12,Sep,11 18:02 other posts of Edmonton

where does it list how many friends u have added?

By #190431 at 12,Sep,11 17:29

I add people as friends so that they can see the full resolution photos and I can see theirs, simple as that. Looking at my friends page, have a ton grayed out. I'll spend some time looking through and re-considering each profile, that could take some time!!! Ah well, in a way, you're all friends to me!

Maybe we can just unlock the full resolution photos to all logged in members of the site, then there wouldn't really be a huge *need* for "friends". All good whatever happens, still

By admin at 12,Sep,11 17:38 other posts of admin

Well, if I do this, bandwidth consumption will skyrocket. It was done for a reason. Many members upload 1.5-2mb images. It does not make much sense to me because I don't see much difference between 70kb 600x400 image of a penis and 2mb 3000x2000 image of the same penis, but people do this. And when this site started to consume over 200Gb per day 2 years ago, I introduced forced small resolution images. Big resolution was meant to be a premium feature. "Friends" allow you to bypass that, but it was never meant that everyone adds everyone to the friends as some of you are trying to do. I made that just to encourage people to make acquaintances on the site, not for the purpose that members can brainlessly add everyone to the friends.

Now I hope that the limitation will return the initial meaning of "friends".

By #10886 at 12,Sep,11 12:53

Just some random thoughts......

The only thing that will satisfy some is anarchy and chaos!!

Quit whining! Friends should be counted by quality not quantity.

If you think you can run the site better.....get with admin and invest!!!!

Those who can, do. Those who can't, whine.

....care fore some cheese to go with that whine?

By #124665 at 12,Sep,11 13:08

I think you summed it up right there

By admin at 12,Sep,11 13:09 other posts of admin

I have nothing against anarchy, chaos or unlimited possibilities, but reality simply does not allow that.

"someone" spoke about Facebook above, but does he know that Facebook uses over 60'000 servers as by now? Running costs for those are tens if not hundreds millions of dollars per month.

By #17515 at 12,Sep,11 17:00

Hi i know, but i'm maybe not to good in informatics, but is there no other ways to increase your server load, like the thing i said about the limit of pics from members?
thanks for your time

By admin at 12,Sep,11 17:16 other posts of admin

Even many of those who work daily with SQL servers rarely understand how they function until they stumble upon problems with large databases.

Shortly speaking - problem is not the friend table itself, problem begins when someone adds hundreds of friends and then refreshes "friends recent uploads" every 20 seconds, because then the server has to go through 500'000 of images and see which of them belong to the friends of this member, then sort them in order where last goes first and in all existing SQL implementation it takes A LOT of time contrary to the natural first to last order.

It's not about disc space or memory, it's about calculations and they increase drastically as count of friends and images grow. I could implement some bypasses by now, and I did something to the "friends recent uploads" page but soon enough I would run into the same problem.

Actually at first I was not going to put any limitations just made some changes to the "friends recent uploads" page, but then I saw that some members added over 10'000 of members to their friends, one even added all 42'000 (probably with some kind of script) and decided that it had to be limited. As someone here wrote - friends are not about quantity, they are about quality.

By MoeJoe at 12,Sep,11 17:30 other posts of MoeJoe

I for one have a large friends list, but I have never used the "Recent Uploads by my Friends" feature and therefore never used the refresh to re-sort all of those records. My reason for a large friends list was for other purposes. I would like to be able to just delete my entire friends list and be done with it and not bother with that feature, as it would be too difficult to determine to keep or delete. I communicate by commenting on individual pics that I like as I browse through the "Most Recent Uploads" each day. And I comment through Private Messaging as well....I don't need the Friends list and I'll just not bother with watching videos. I would donate money to the cause if there was another way to do it other than via credit cards. I really do like this site and have had many hours of enjoyment being here, and I do not want my profile to be a hindrance to the system performace.

By WristThick at 12,Sep,11 13:22 other posts of WristThick

I have about 300 people on my friend list. I don't consider that a lot and planned to add maybe 100 more.

I understand your need to make this decision, and also that some people are disproportionate users of resources and bandwidth on this site. (10,000 friends is ridiculous!!!!) But I recommend that you rethink your decision to make the cutoff at only 100 friends. That's simply too low and will drive many to other sites, such as xhamster.

My advice would be to raise the cutoff to several hundred. That's all. Thanks for listening.

By #17515 at 12,Sep,11 10:58

i know that much of the members who helped to bring the site this way like it was till last week, will maybe dissappear and search other sites, there are many members who liked talking with others and becomming "friends" with one or the other. good friendships we made here. As example we can take "facebook" i have more then 500 friends who i know personally by name and add still people on facebook, wwhy can't it be here like that?

By #124665 at 12,Sep,11 13:07

Fuck facebook

500? Jeez I dont think I could handle all THAT drama

By #164428 at 12,Sep,11 07:48

I canceled premium because I want to add more people; I now have to go diamond as a result. It it supposed to kick in when the current membership expires.

I wondered about all the members in gray. I hope they aren't just going to drop off my list(?!)

By #124665 at 12,Sep,11 12:57

I hope they arent goint to drop on your pussy thats my job

By #161573 at 12,Sep,11 04:58

I liked adding anyone whose pics i liked, so that i can just check my friends recent uploads for new ones by them. over a couple months, those friends can add up. i think i have like 500 friends or so. but that's just cause there are so many hot guys here! so i guess i'll try to trim down to just the guys i chat the most with. i my appologies to all i delete, it's nothing personal.

By #124665 at 12,Sep,11 12:55

Its sucks yes but understood

By #126975 at 12,Sep,11 04:26

I believe everyone needs to understand , when the site has problems, we all have a problems, and most of us do not know the costs, or what is involved in even doing this, but i do know computers, (I build them for fun), it doesn't take much to create bottlenecks, so I feel maybe admin, could tell us all what things in excess could cause him problems, and lets see what we could do to make it more of a smooth operation for him and the site, and we could pass this on to the other members as well. Whether its friends or to many pics, favorite pics, etc. Let us know where to start where we can start a fall cleaning per say.

By #124665 at 12,Sep,11 12:54

Not a bad idea

By #162266 at 12,Sep,11 03:18

this kinda sucks for those of us members who've been forced by others into making their pics for friends only in order to prevent points from being burned by voting against pics. I think the burning of points by voting against pics should be taken away as well then we can all show our pics as was intended.

By #124665 at 12,Sep,11 12:53

Voting makes the site unique.. we all get voted against. I dont like to pay my taxes either

And you can never please everyone, different strokes for different folks!

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