Ever since you posted this topic yesterday I've been wanting to make a comment, but I've been turning over in my head what to say. So I guess I'll just plunge right in and see how it turns out. If I don't like what I've written I don't have to click on "Submit Comment".

First of all, unlike you I am gay. Not just gay, but gay, Gay, GAY. Now we gay men have something of a sixth sense that relates to sex and sexuality. It is often called our gaydar. We often just have a feeling about other men and we know who is interested in a sexual hook-up. But my own gaydar (and every other gay man's) doesn't always work. Your remark about "lost opportunities" really struck a nerve as I've had a lot of them myself. There have been many situations that in hindsight were golden opportunities that I missed out on. Oh, well.

Now you, as a straight man wanting to do a little switch hitting, probably do not have much of a gaydar. But with practice this is something you can learn. And locker rooms are a good place to start. Men are nude there and they are generally just dripping with sexual tension. After exercising all his other muscles, many a man would like to finish up with an exercise of his love muscle. Don't be shy about looking guys over and see what kind of response you get.

After you've practiced your skills in locker rooms, you can move out to the world at large. Good luck.