Changing what you CALL something does not change the thing itself. You can call a midget a dinglehopper--that doesn't make it any less midgetty.

What is the sub-category label for someone who is pansexual, usually prefers women other things being equal, but would much rather play with a cute hung twink with sweet personality (unicorn?) than a morbidly obese walmarty woman in her 50s. What do you label a semi-gay guy who would much rather bang a young way-hot chick rather than a short-dick 300-pound grandpa?

Guys having sex with guys claiming to be "straight" make all labels pointless to me. I like "heteronormative" just as a word.

"heteroflexible" is a term to comfortably ease latently cock-crazy bisexual or pansexual men into the world of cock. btw google up "bro job" (just learned the term recently) and there are articles on how there's a hot budding epidemic of sexual congress between bros on the down low and how more and more people realize this is happening (just not out in the open the way hot girl-girl action is -- not yet anyway -- it might take another generation before non-gay guys can openly and comfortably discuss how awesome it is to suck cock).

I *prefer* women over men as sex partners but am also cock-crazy, what does that make me? I seem to be part of a sizable and growing demographic so an accurate label might be useful to describe us pussy-and-cock-crazy dudes.

True story!

I'm not going to reply to the heated thread, but what about so-called "Situational Sexuality", which includes sex between men in isolation (e.g. prisoners, sailors, boarding school students); or men who have sex with men in societies where, due to the pressures on women to be virgins, women are not available? Finally, loads of gay men have had sex with women, but I would argue that does not imply that they are all bi. This is a quote from Wikipedia:

"One example of situational sexual behavior includes when people might not have sex with prostitutes in their home countries, but may do so when they visit other countries, where such activities are legal or ignored by authorities. Another example is when individuals or members of a community might engage in homosexual behaviors but identify as heterosexual otherwise, such as some people in prison, the military, single sex boarding schools, or other sex-segregated communities.

Many people change their sexual behavior depending on the situation or at different points in their life.[1] For example, men and women in a university may engage in bisexual activities, but only in that environment. Experimentation of this sort is more common among adolescents (or just after), both male and female. Some colloquialisms for this trend include "heteroflexible",[2] "BUG" (Bisexual Until Graduation), or "LUG" (Lesbian Until Graduation).[3]"

There's also cultures where the divide is between penetrator and receiver (the concepts of gay, bi and straight not being prevalent), and horny young lads will stick their cocks up the local gay guy or tourist, because there's nothing else. Given the choice of on-demand arse or pussy, probably 95% of them would go for pussy but they are horny enough to think "a hole is a hole". Let's not even go onto "sheep shaggers", again, 99% of whom I assume do not masturbate over sheep, let alone want to marry and have kids with them.

Could HeteroFlexible mean someone who occasionally or rarely has sex with someone of the same sex but has no romantic attraction? Whereas bi would mean sexual and romantic attraction to both sexes? Surely the fact that the word HeteroFlexible has arisen is that people identify with it, and that gives it meaning? Homosexuality as a word and concept is extremely recent in the context of 100,000 years of human existence (and is also seen by many as a Western concept). I don't know when bisexuality was defined but can we really close the door and decide that we now know everything about human sexuality, and can never add any more definitions?

I for one would like to lick some south Asian pussy before I die but I would never describe myself as bi - perhaps I am HomoFlexible? I really doubt there's a woman in the world who I could settle down with but there are certainly women that I'd love to have sex with. And quite frankly (and I'm sure I speak on behalf of many gay men here), if zuffenhausen wanted to suck my cock, I'd fuck a fucking dustbin if that was a requirement but that does not make me DustBinSexual - just DustBinFlexible

Sounds like most of the politicians in Congress

Problem is telling people you're bi, both men and women think that you are a cock hungry slut and guys expect easy hookups like they get from fullblown gay men.

Straight, bi, gay... Terms are too vague doesn't cover the full scale. What if you fuck 10 women a year but only 1 guy? What if you fuck 10 guts a year but only one girl? According to you they are both just bi and fall under the same label.

I don't get it.... What did I miss??

Once again it's time to resurrect this post which is on my blog. The confusion over the meaning of Heterosexual, Homosexual, and Bisexual, doesn't seem to go away yet it's not a gray area, the meanings of the three terms individually and as a whole are specific and indisputable. To that end, I researched the definitions of sexuality at some length and consolidated it into the following missive.

The key to determining one's sexuality is in the words, "a tendency to direct sexual desire toward...". As it's a matter of self determination an individual can take stock of his or her sexuality and easily apply the appropriate definition as described below.

Notice that since this is a self-determined, subjectively applied categorization that cannot be absolutely quantified; the possibility exists for an individual to legitimately define his or her sexuality by any of the categories, one or more times during their lives, and yet equally categorize themselves in another category at other times.

One could suppose that over the course of one's lifetime there becomes a predominant predisposition towards being Hetero-, Homo, or Bi-sexual however that requires a long-term analysis of one's sexual tendencies and can't be determined over the span of a short sampling.

So, let's get to the core of the discussion by examining the previously published article.


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To begin, the Merriam Webster Dictionary provides the following definitions:

Heterosexual (slang: Straight)

1. Of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward the opposite sex.

2. Of, relating to, or involving sexual intercourse between individuals of opposite sex.

Homosexual (slang: Gay)

1. Of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward another of the same sex.

2. Of, relating to, or involving sexual intercourse between persons of the same sex.

Bisexual (synonyms: Ambisexual, Unisexual)

1. Of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward both sexes.

2. Of, relating to, or involving both sexes.

Also, the definitions of Ambisexual and Unisexual include the following exception for hermaphroditic individuals:

1.Of, relating to, or restricted to one sex, male or female but not hermaphroditic.

Note: For our purposes, Bisexual, Ambisexual, and Unisexual will be considered the same.

Notice that in ALL of the definitions, the phrase; "a tendency to direct sexual desire toward", is used to characterize one's sexual orientation. It does not say in any definition that sexual desires are always restricted to one sex or the other. So, when someone says they are "Straight" for example, it doesn't say they only have desires for the opposite sex, it means they are primarily attracted to the opposite sex however, they may also be capable of having feelings for the same sex at some ambiguous level. If a male identifies himself and believes himself to be heterosexual (Straight), it is equally possible that he finds people of the same sex to be sexually attractive to a lesser degree as well. It is equally understandable that a female who describes herself as homosexual (Gay) might well find males to be sexually attractive to a lesser degree too.

What leads to the confusion is that many individuals are trying to exchange "desire" for "sexual actions" which are two separate issues. One may desire many things in life but never act on the desire. This is the case were a heterosexual (straight) male says he can?t stop thinking about sucking on a cock. That may be a legitimate fantasy and in this forum he can openly express this desire however, even if presented a non-threatening opportunity to act on that desire, he may or may not. If he does engage in a homosexual act, it doesn't change the fact that his orientation is heterosexual.

In the end, a person's sexual orientation is a matter of their personal beliefs. They are not exclusively a result of their actions and their actions are not exclusively representative of their primary beliefs. Only when ones actions become a significant part of their life that they belie their stated beliefs, then and only then will the individual alter their definition of their orientation and pronounce it openly.
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I'm usually pretty set on straight/bi/gay, as the 3 major types of human sexuality, but there is more to it, than that.

Firstly, we have to consider people, who are asexual. No sex for them at all.

Secondly, there are people, who are just bi-curious. They are thinking about it, maybe get excited watching same gender porn.

Thirdly, we have heteroflexible peeps, who are mostly straight, but once in a blue moon, will have a same sex sexual encounter.

Then we got homoflexible individuals, who are mostly gay, but will engage in an encounter with the opposite gender once in a while.

This kind of classification doesn't contradict the straight/bi/gay classification, just brings several more shades into this white/grey/black scale.

Does this make sense?

I don't know about all that, I do know I want to suck a cock and see the eyes of a man as be blows his load in my ass while doing me missionary before I die!!!
Oh yea, and taste the sticky goodness of every pussy on SYD!!!

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