Why married men have sex with other men

By leopoldij at 04,May,21 19:43 other posts of leopoldij

Let's give a brief explanation like this:
People, especially men, need to have sex throughout their lives in various ways, with various people. That's human nature. Stone like men, some women, some both, some none, some want to have sex with multiple partners. Marriage is a convention that is not necessarily part of human biology. So, in a free and ideal society, we wouldn't even have to ask such questions. It's like asking "why do fishermen like to eat beef?"

By leopoldij at 16,Feb,21 00:21 other posts of leopoldij

I'm glad they do. Because they leave their wives unsatisfied and I get the opportunity to fuck them. Yes, I'm fucking a married woman whose husband likes his male friends more than he likes her. Suits me nicely.

By up-for-it at 02,May,21 15:12 other posts of up-for-it

Good for you !

By leopoldij at 02,May,21 18:14 other posts of leopoldij

A win-win situation. I'm not complaining. I'm saying it's great.

By leopoldij at 02,May,21 18:15 other posts of leopoldij

In fact, if people could bettercommunicate their sexual needs and sexual preferences then the world would have been better place. I mean it.

By up-for-it at 04,May,21 15:41 other posts of up-for-it

True, sexual frustration can lead to a lot of bad reactions and decisions.

By leopoldij at 04,May,21 19:31 other posts of leopoldij

Very true. In fact, a lot of men have gone to war hoping that they'll fuck in the distant lands they go to. Perhaps, not fully consciously, but it would be interesting to know how big is the sex factor for someone risking their life. I daresay it's a nontrivial factor.

By leopoldij at 04,May,21 19:34 other posts of leopoldij

Also, take, for example, how much is sex related to power. Many people want to rise in hierarchy for prestige, for money, but also for sex. They'll never say so but we know so. How big is the sex factor in one's decision to become, say, top administrator, chairperson, head of a company, etc. I daresay that it is nonnegligible.

By leopoldij at 04,May,21 19:38 other posts of leopoldij

If people, especially men, had sex whenever they needed to, if sex wasn't that a big deal, if they could communicate their needs and desires, if, if, if... then the world would have been a better place. Fewer wars, less attraction to positions of power, fewer health problems, etc. Instead, we've been living in societies that have adopted religions that preach that sex is a sin. It goes against any kind of logic. It's like adopting a religion preaching that using your right hand is a sin. Imagine what problems that would create.

By leopoldij at 04,May,21 19:39 other posts of leopoldij

Not to talk about homosexuality and how they've been trying to "cure" it. Millions of people must have suffered, the vast majority of them without ever even expressing themselves.

By #516354 at 28,Apr,21 08:00

'Why married men have sex with other men'

I was kind of tricked into it.This is a short version(long version here /blogs/33063.html ) When my now ex wife/Mistress and I got into bdsm we joined a bdsm site where you could chat and cam.She invited a Master from the site to our house.I ended up tied to a table and had to watch whilst they had sex.Then I had to 'clean' both of them up.Then Mistress put Her strap on on and I was spit roasted with them swapping places every so often.I was then released and had to masturbate over the table and then clean up my 'mess'.

By up-for-it at 02,May,21 16:56 other posts of up-for-it

I read your long version ! It seems you
enjoyed that very much, more than the dildo or strpa on, so you must have felt something for a man all the time !

So, enjoy it !

By #516354 at 03,May,21 07:24

I did enjoy it!Maybe I should add that to the blog.

By leopoldij at 14,Aug,20 23:06 other posts of leopoldij

"Why married men have sex with other men?"

I presume you mean married to a woman.
Then it's a mystery.
Wanting to have, and having, sex with another woman is completely understandable. Humans are not monogamous.

By #485312 at 15,Aug,20 00:20

if youre having sex with your own age range, then the women get less into sex, and I think its because men are way more open about sexual things.. you see it on sites like this and at nudist beaches. more men than women, older women aren't as into it as their partners and yeah some women stay horny, but some just get to a point and don't want it.. *lix*

By #610414 at 15,Aug,20 13:15

I believe that men are all 60/40. They are all 60% straight and 40% gay. They just need a chance to show it off. Bottom line? Sex with warmth is good straight or gay. Right lix?

By leopoldij at 16,Aug,20 01:17 other posts of leopoldij

I belong to the 60%. I can't get any sexual attraction to a man, no matter what.

By #613564 at 24,Apr,21 05:13

@leopoldij Yeah, NO attraction to men, at all, but sometimes a girl, with a strap on, or fantasies for trannies that are so like women, but with a penis.

By leopoldij at 24,Apr,21 17:06 other posts of leopoldij

A girl with a strap on is ok. Trannies are out. For me.

By #613564 at 26,Apr,21 04:17

Why? Natural, and just hormones, and tiny balls, but small, cute tits, but she can get hard? It's like the best of both worlds, when the Wife or GF pisses you off, or kicks you out, or is doing the 'withholding sex' thing, to control you!

By leopoldij at 26,Apr,21 17:08 other posts of leopoldij

I see your point of view. And it's great you can enjoy that. I can't. My brain works differently. Maybe I'm narrow minded. But I can't change that

By #485312 at 16,Aug,20 04:58

I think that comes back to attraction. gay or straight, you still need some kind of attraction. I do know some dudes have no problem with sex with out attraction. they just want a fuck, no warmth or affection, I was a bit like that myself for many years, didn't need affection or warmth, just a good hard fuck, with someone I found attractive ... I do know some guys who would never come at another man even in a 3some situation. but I do believe most, but not all, would succumb to trying it with another dude at some point in life. some would like to try, but will never get the chance or take the chance. and some like leo, are so straight, you could check your ruler against them.. *lix*

By #633353 at 12,Feb,21 14:18

Exactly...

By leopoldij at 16,Aug,20 01:14 other posts of leopoldij

Then that explains why men, past a certain age want to have sex with other, possibly younger women. Because their wives don't want or need as much sex as the men. In any case, there's a difference between sex and partnership. Monogamy is therefore a social construct which, as everybody knows, doesn't work.

By #485312 at 16,Aug,20 05:02

yeah some can get laid with younger women, but what about the dudes that cant attract one?? this is where that factor comes into play. monogamy I think helps relieve the court systems of broken marriages, some just stick with it because theyre told too, even if theyre not happy ... and look out side the marriage for some fluff on the side, and Im sure that always comes with more complications. monogamy was set up by the churches too I think, keeping their flocks under control and stuck till death lol, *lix*

By #622655 at 22,Aug,20 04:29

OH LIX you have my situation down to a "T". My wife is no longer interested in sex & I am VERY much. I feel Lost & alone. She's a good person & we get along great but my sex drive it very high & hers is Very LOW. Then i fell like whoever wants to suck me off~ I'm "IN".

By up-for-it at 02,May,21 15:58 other posts of up-for-it

Some humans are monogamous, yes like swans !

Most are not and sadly they don't get that or are not allowed to get that.

The past couple of years i have met married men (to women) who like having sex with men even if they have great sex with their wives , its just a part of their sexual live

By german_guy at 02,May,21 16:05 other posts of german_guy

I agree

By thebeewolf at 02,May,21 15:38 other posts of thebeewolf

I never did anything with men when I was married. Never had any desire to. I have never been attracted to men. I'm still not. I'm a nice guy, but after my second divorce, I came to the conclusion that maybe I'm not great at this marriage/relationship thing. What now? Spend the rest of my life stroking my own dick? Pay young women $200 to let me fuck them?

Then I saw the ads on Craig's List. Guys who really wanted to suck cock, sometimes without any reciprocation. Yes, it's weird, awkward, and even a little nauseating at first. But I found out that if I push through that, close my eyes and think of Scarlett Johansson, I can get THE most amazing blowjobs ever.

That's the math. I need to get off. He needs to suck. I don't let a little thing like being straight get in the way of that.

By #637729 at 28,Apr,21 14:43

Married men (to a woman) have sex with other men because they are not 100% straight, and have enough of a desire for the same gender to go for it. Sexuality is and always has been a spectrum... men who are, say, 75% straight.... need that 25% curiosity met. It's just that simple really.

By german_guy at 30,Apr,21 17:42 other posts of german_guy

I do agree on u

By WHATSUPDOC at 24,Apr,21 00:44 other posts of WHATSUPDOC

I would think because they are eithe not satisfied at home, or doesn't more, or has some other difficulties iс life

By knewbi at 15,Feb,21 23:01 other posts of knewbi

For me it is just sex.. I do not care if it is a he or a she.. If they want to share some sexual moments with me I am all for it...

By #618489 at 21,Aug,20 21:18

I think because some women don't like to have anal sex and some times man want to get penetrate for another man

By #635600 at 13,Feb,21 00:43

I’ve fucked many women when I was young. Now I’m old and sometimes I wonder how it feels to be fucked.

By #635600 at 13,Feb,21 00:40

This is interesting. I had several bi or gay experiences when I was younger. I enjoyed them , but society was not as accepting of M2M sex then.
I actively suppressed any desire to be with men.
I loved sex with women! Make no mistake. I’ve been married for almost 40 years. She’s less into sex all the time and the longer between the harder it is for her. I’m still horny . I remember I enjoyed times with other men, I’d like to again, but will continue to honor my word to her. Won’t stop me from playing online though.

By up-for-it at 12,Feb,21 23:50 other posts of up-for-it

Being 53 wise and experienced, lol, let me say this !

Married, in a relationship with a man , woman same sex or not !

It happens, sex with your partner isn't that exciting anymore and sex with a same sex or not is more interesteng /exciting.

Go for it !

By LGA6969 at 12,Feb,21 21:50 other posts of LGA6969

Because most men love dick

By #631189 at 04,Feb,21 17:59

Because cocks are utterly fantastic?

By spermkiss at 04,Feb,21 20:24 other posts of spermkiss

So true. The penis is the universally loved sex organ. I think this is because a penis cannot lie. It's impossible to fake an erection and impossible to fake an ejaculation. When we see a load of jizz squirting out of a hard cock we know it's the real thing. The straightest of men always want to see the money shot when watching porn.

By deepchocolate2071 at 03,Feb,21 23:04 other posts of deepchocolate2071

It's because, it's a lot easier to find sex with other men than finding sex with other women outside of marriage.

It's that simple.

By spermkiss at 04,Feb,21 16:43 other posts of spermkiss

Exactly. With women you have to wine them and dine them and say all the right things and do a lot of coaxing just to get a sniff of their pussy. But men are easy. Just say the word "sex" to a man and he'll start opening his pants.

By #294721 at 04,Feb,21 17:55

Agreed to both points.

Although some would argue that there are women out there that: will find a boyfriend while married; seek out married guys or be ok with being a side piece. To that I'd say "they are very few and a vast distance between them."

By #463848 at 21,Aug,20 10:56

I don't need the whole hog; just some mutual wanking suits me fine.

By Blokesecret at 19,Aug,20 22:56 other posts of Blokesecret

For me it’s a way of sharing my wife. My biggest fantasy is to see my wife having sex with another man, and although we’ve talked about it, and had a few near misses, she always gets cold feet and doesn’t see it through. So I meet men from here, Craigslist and Vivastreet and show them all the naked photos I have of my wife on my phone and suck them off. When there on a pic that turns them on I let them cum in my mouth and swallow there cum. It feels like I’m sharing her because they cum looking at my naked wife. I also take worn panties with me so they can taste her and smell her pussy. It would be better if she ever fucks another man but for now I’ll carry on sucking men off while they perv over my naked wife.

By #588327 at 16,Aug,20 03:22

What if people had sex to make the other person feel good ? The sex could be anything then. Maybe the wife doesn't want anything or she just wants to cuddle or maybe she wants intimacy.

Seems like the wife could giver her man a good hand job or something. I think guys just want his wife to help him get off. She should know how much he need to get off. Is it once a day or once a week. Just like the husband should know what his wife needs to feel good or sexy or what's missing between them.

By #463848 at 14,Aug,20 09:01

Once the females have left; the men can be found to be a better option. A wank buddy is much less trouble and takes up much less time.

By #485312 at 14,Aug,20 21:48

I see it all the time, even in this tiny town we live in, a lot of middle aged men, leaving their wives and moving in together *Lix*

By onthelose at 11,Aug,20 20:03 other posts of onthelose

All that you say is 100% true. I thought that I was the only one going through this. I don't know why some say you must be gay if you enjoy sex with someone other then men. If you aren't interested then , fine go on with your life and don't think you have the right to tell the rest of us, you have to think and act like I do!!! I have a couple of friends who say they turn down sex with their wives. That never turns out well.

By #623135 at 11,Aug,20 19:30

My ehefrau likesit when i scream

By steve8211 at 05,Aug,20 20:24 other posts of steve8211

Wife dont put out anymore. It's just easier to find a man and have some fun and no attachment afterwards. Men want one thing and that is to get off with someone

By tb1 at 11,Aug,20 18:19 other posts of tb1

I agree

By #608810 at 11,Aug,20 16:17

I love checking out cut cock mine and others definitely have an obsession with my cock and and a fat dildo up my ass. [deleted image]

By #623140 at 05,Aug,20 19:53

I am always thinking about penises and what the could do for me.

By johnwish at 05,Aug,20 16:29 other posts of johnwish

Whether they admit it or not,I think all men secretly fantasize about other mens cocks.I know I do.

By #536019 at 05,Aug,20 17:34

Straight women seem to get off on soft-core pics of nude women. No reason a straight man shouldn't enjoy cock pictures.

By johnwish at 05,Aug,20 18:16 other posts of johnwish

Agreed bil47.

By german_guy at 05,Aug,20 19:51 other posts of german_guy

me too

By #622501 at 05,Aug,20 16:44

I want to have sex with other men as I am so frustrated by my wife's lack of interest. Women are too much trouble, so it's mutual sucking and fucking with any man I can find. Sadly no one is near me.

By #188764 at 20,Oct,11 10:13

I've known that I'm bisexual ever since I was 12 - almost 50 years ago. But after some boy/boy play at ages 12 - 14 I lived a straight life and got married in my 20s. By the time I was in my mid-40s my wife had totally withdrawn from any interest in sex. So why not get a taste of what I had been thinking about all those years. Sex with other men is exciting and usually quite satisfying... better in some ways than sex with my wife (the blowjobs!), but lacking in other ways (I miss fucking a pussy!). My wife and I are still emotionally and physically affectionate, but we don't have sex. I make up for it with masturbation (edging rocks!) and occasional get-togethers with men. She knows about it in a general way, but prefers "don't ask, don't tell".

By #536019 at 04,Aug,20 12:23

I'm in the same situation... no sex with my wife, but occasional adventures with other bi men, many of them married.

By #292697 at 04,Aug,20 12:40

That’s my life to a t

By SluttySarah069 at 04,Aug,20 14:20 other posts of SluttySarah069

Same here - I love my wife and value her as my best friend and companion. However, being Bi and enjoying Cross Dressing, I need fun elsewhere. I'm always "careful" as I don't want to take anything undesirable home but I need to satisfy my sexual urges.
She knows that I'm Bi and cross dress but doesn't want to know.

By #621759 at 04,Aug,20 07:15

I love give my tight fat bubble butt up to married men when my wife is at work I cross dress meet married men on double list and let them come over feed men dick and butt fuck me and fill my ass with a coupe load of cum

By #183011 at 20,Oct,11 00:38

maybe marriage should not be a life sentence - I am jusy too comfortable to change even though I am very frustrated - wish I was braver

By #6568 at 20,Oct,11 09:58

......You could try improving your sex-life with your wife,...perhaps she is thinking the same thing without you knowing, or deeply wishes for you to be more romantic etc.

By #201583 at 12,Mar,12 03:49

How? I cant even get her to just lay there, or do dishes, cook, clean, or fucking nothing. She just keeps getting bigger and bigger. She was taught that her pussy was a weapon and that she could control a man by cutting him off. Not me, havent touched it in over five years and she couldnt pay me to touch it, I dont even want to see it.

By 3fdfd at 03,Oct,11 12:34 other posts of 3fdfd

family & society - might be the reasons most guys born 1960 & earlier got married to a woman - to do what was expected of us - I'm not so sure this is a true of guys born from 1970s on - less pressure from society to conform

By MoeJoe at 03,Oct,11 10:15 other posts of MoeJoe

I agree with Fantsay and I would also like to add that yes there may be latent homosexual or bisexual tendencies here, but then I believe that all men have them....it's just a matter of how deeply they are buried or in some men, supressed. Another attractive feature of sexual liaisons with other men is simply that men are into sex for the moment with no strings attached....if you want to stray from the nest with women.....then you had better be prepared to handle all of that baggage they carry, because they cannot seem to separate sex from love or emotion or whatever you want to call it. Men just want to get off and doing it with another man is quick and easy.

By #6568 at 03,Oct,11 10:00

I have endured (no exageration) long sexless periods in my life but even at my lowest misery I never considered any kind of sexual contact with other men......

.....I think you would have to be latently gay or at least 'bi' to take this route from desperation.

Perhaps I should mention (already known to the regulars here)that I have no 'homophobic' tendencies and have several gay friends and aquaintances, some of whom I like and respect very much.

By pifad at 03,Oct,11 05:11 other posts of pifad

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